“I help people spiritually go deeper,” she said. “Hmm. Clearly there’s a reason we’re sitting beside each other,” I responded. Her name was Mary Ellen. A fellow soprano in my choir, Mary Ellen and I had sat beside each other for weeks, but I’d never found the stillness to ask her how she spent her … Continue reading Heart, gut, repeat.
My coach was the one who introduced me to the concept of intimacy. Before that, I didn’t really get it. The title of this post is the definition she offered me: “into me see.” It means being able to truly see into someone and have them see into you in return. I’ve said previously that … Continue reading Into me see
What’s hidden in what we try to help ourselves remember? Inspired by one of my earliest Frequent Redhead posts, I took a deep dive into my iPhone notes. I was hungry for truth and old grocery lists. Here are the best finds. They range from practical to poetic to completely perplexing – fragments of a person with … Continue reading I took an iPhone notes deep dive
Is there anything more mesmerizing than an Instagram contouring video? They start with a base, glossing over even the most discreet imperfections to create a usable canvas. Next they draw a map. They drag a darker foundation down from the ear, along the lower half of the cheekbone, creating a valley that isn’t there usually. … Continue reading The art of keeping it together
It’s around two in the morning at New Sky restaurant on Spadina – my go-to spot for late night Chinese. I’m in the company of a few of my closest friends and we’re being unapologetically rowdy over fried green beans with pork and General Tao chicken. I look around. I’m surrounded by warm, salty, unbelievably … Continue reading Friendly reminder: “single” isn’t really a thing
Astrology is really having a moment right now and I’m totally here for it. If you’re a nut for the Chanis and Susans of the world, you’ll know that this month’s new moon is all about embracing the nature of what many consider to be one of the worst signs of the zodiac. It’s that two-faced, kinda … Continue reading You can’t be good all the time and that’s okay
I’m a woman of extremes. I’ll be doing spastic, interpretive dancing on a friend’s carpet floor one night and in the fetal position on the couch watching Scully deal with Mulder’s crap again the next. I’ll be finding joy in a fresh bouquet of lilies one second and lying on a pile of dirty laundry, … Continue reading Dealing with the feelings